My Baby Loves Me Just the Way That I Am

So Kirby and I were having a facebook chat the other day. It started because my neice, Kyndra's husband just up and decided he didn't want to be married any more, this after having 2 sons under 3 years old and with no warning to his wife. He just "doesn't love her anymore." So with that and 9-11 in my head I wrote this comment to Kirby over my breakfast cereal:

Sherri Crowley
Good morning my hero. Hero: a person who sacrifices self interest for the interest of others. There are so few heroes out there today. . .All daddies used to be heroes, but not anymore. It's a sad commentary on our society to note that selfishness seems to be the governing factor in so many people's lives and philosophies. No wonder people no longer look to Christ as an example. He just makes them look really bad!
There I go again. . . Oh, well, there's my thought of the day. . .

7:23am
Kirby Crowley
A good thought it is. A hero also needs something/someone to be heroic about/for... Just sayin'

8:56am
Sherri Crowley
Meaning?
Kirby Crowley
That without a cause, there is no fight.
Sherri Crowley
Do you think more people need to have a cause? Or that the cause is less compelling today? Or is it just a general observation?

I think this is a really interesting comment, that is why I'm asking questions. It opens up a lot of cross dialogue. I wonder if men and women have differing fundamental expectations of gender roles and responsibilities and what their different drivers are. Could we figure out ways to fix the causal factors of abandonment if we knew the motives that made men stand and defend instead of get disgusted and leave.

So then I went online and found some articles on men and relationships and I sent a link to Kirby:
http://www.topdatingtips.com/what-men-want.htm
And he wrote me back:
You don't have to understand men to understand me, and the only thing you need to understand about me is that I will do anything to protect you and the kids and to make your lives as comfortable as I can. Yes, I do like to be listened to, but that is not my motivator.

So bottom line, Kirby's motivator is me and our family. How humbling and amazing is that? What a great man I have. I love him and am so comforted by the fact that he is there for me in every way he can be. I feel deeply moved and my understanding of great men and the women who love them has taken on a new dimension of understanding.